Just an opinion, episode 5/ a rant: Love and people and social interaction in general are overrated + Life update

Hello, everyone! (Yes, I’m alive.)

I did disappear for a while, but then I just kept procrastinating over the blog, since the past two weeks. I’m being a toxic blogger who’s just waiting for stats to grow, without posting stuff. I’m such a hypocrite.

Coming to today’s entry, it’s by Riddhi, from whispering stories! She runs a book blog and this is something about her blog-

Whispering Stories is a blog for everything bookish, but I also sometimes post non-bookish musical, movie-related or just life-related stuff!

Riddhi B, author of Whispering stories blog.

Here is the entry she sent-

Love and people and social interaction in general are overrated

Umm you know, I kinda agree but I kinda don’t.

Sometimes, I just hate seeing people. Not because they’re insufferable, but then what conversation do I make with them? But sometimes, I just cannot stand being alone you know? *My ambiverted heart not being able to make a decision*

Social interaction is overrated, in a way. When I meet someone, I say hi and then I’m split between two choices- should I talk or not? Finding the ideal person to talk is a necessity for me. I get selective. So if I like that person, then hey, welcome this chatterbox of a person. If I don’t, it’s just hard. No matter how nice you’ll be, I’ll never be able to talk to you openly. It’s all about getting THAT vibe.

Second, the answers to some questions are hard. For example- how have you been doing lately?

I get thinking. What am I supposed to tell, that my favorite show just got finished and I can’t move on, school is tough, and I’m struggling with a character’s death in a book? That it is traumatic? Obviously, I can’t answer it like that. Even if I do, it’s not the “acceptable answer”, because whoever asked me how I’ve been doing, has already set a particular answer in their mind (and that reply is “i’m doing fine”). And they won’t get it. Awkward as hell.

Then coming to love, well I’m not sure. From a school perspective, it is SO overrated. In my school, the rumors begin if a girl is seen talking to a boy, or even EYE CONTACT and there go the oohs and aahhs by the teasing classmates. And every school has that group that’s always into who’s having a crush on whom and stuff. They’d do all pairings, and will howl like a pack of wolves whenever the girl and the guy have an interaction, when there is clearly NOTHING between them.

There’s one thing I wish I could tell them but I never could- GROW UP.

They don’t get it’s cringe to go on linking people and stuff. And then there’ll be heartbroken people who can’t get their crush to like them back. See, you develop feelings, but then don’t you have things to study? Isn’t this SCHOOL? Your life right now isn’t supposed to be a romance drama, it’s not gonna happen, it’s all unrealistic overrated stuff they show on television, you’re never gonna have it, so stop getting depressed about love.

I won’t preach further, but, there is still time in your life for that.

And people, well, I like people. Nothing wrong, unless they start a war or something. (Yes, I referenced it to that w@r)

But if you look at it from an introverted perspective, above all arguments stand invalid, because introverts react the following ways in each of the cases:

  • People- Meh.
  • Love- Meh meh.
  • Social interaction- An even bigger Meh.

So, yes, that was my opinion slash rant on this intriguing one liner, now how about you?

What is your opinion about people, love and social interaction?

Let me know in the comments, people!

And also, I will go a bit inactive for a while, because right now, I’m sorting, well, LIFE. Seems overexaggerated, but it isn’t. I’ve moved to the dreaded, overhyped and the pit of doom and misery, tenth grade. I’m just kidding. But still, I feel I really need to pay attention to school now (not that all these years I WASN’T, but still, goes to say), because I think the very first month of an academic year is like THE MOST important time, to set the correct pace for the rest of the grade.

I would also put this series to a halt, and continue it again in the month of May, and as promised, there will be ten episodes, look forward to the next five coming up later! If you want to submit an entry or something, you can still do it!

In the meantime, I’ll post something different, because I know, a blog series can become SO BORING. I need a change too. And also, apologies for not replying to all those comments I got on previous posts, I love you readers! Thanks for still being here, I’ll try to reply to you people henceforth!

Anyways, Sayonara, readers!

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.

Just an opinion!- A blog series @TheNameIsDivi!

This series is a blog series where I share my opinions on one-liners that I got from my readers a while ago. To fill in your entry please do do here. To learn more about the series, please read this post.

Just an opinion: Episode 4, A.K.A. Friend appreciation post || “What if we lived in a world where everyone had a circle of friends that supported them…”||

Hello everyone, how are you guys doing? Good, I hope. If you aren’t, you have a girl who’s cheering on you even now! (hint- that’s me.)

So, I received today’s one liner from Maggie. Maggie runs a Personal blog, where she posts about photography, lifestyle, and tips for almost everything! I really love reading her optimism filled posts! Please visit her blog!

maggie’s doodles is a creative lifestyle site featuring photography, life inspiration, doodles, and fun projects!

Maggies, author of Maggie’s Doodles!

Here’s what Maggie’s liner says:

What if we lived in a world where everyone had a circle of friends that supported them, checked in on them, and made sure they’re doing well?

*Before we begin, I’ve noticed some of you readers have been confused as to who wrote what, This isn’t a guest post. All the content is written by me (Divi), where I write my opinion regarding their statements. *

Umm yes, this is true and I agree hundred percent.

I know a kid in school who’s always alone, who doesn’t have friends around, and before in our lower grades, I heard he used to be bullied a lot. I didn’t know a lot then, so naturally, I never reported that.

On the last day of ninth grade, which was recently, I was clicking pictures with my group of friends. The feeling was incomparable. I’d been with them since kindergarten, and 11 years later, I saw my best friends with me. I felt safe. Then I saw that kid, he was near a tree, he was sitting alone amidst a huge crowd.

See I’m not a saintly person. I didn’t go and talk to him, I just walked away like I didn’t care. But I tried to feel like he did. When so many teenagers are with their friends and having their own thing going on, and you’re all alone, how would you feel?

My friends always keep checking on me, and they genuinely congratulate me or console me caringly. It’s hard to imagine when someone so special is just, absent, in your life. That kid had absolutely no friends, there would be nobody to console him when he got hit, there would be nobody to congratulate him on getting good grades.

We all need friends. They’d crack jokes to make you laugh, they would never make you feel alone and their sole mission is to see you happy. Outside my family, I don’t think anyone else checks up on me more than my friends do. When I was sick, they messaged everyday, and gave their support. They also did make fun of me on my birthday though.

Seeing lone people just somehow shatters me so much, because there is absolutely no one for them to talk to. There’s no one for them to speak their mind or just have a companion to walk home.

There are so many people like that, who don’t have a healthy group of friends. They’re all around us. Take that step forward and talk to them. I once did that to a new girl at school, and now she’s relatively better, she became a good friend of mine. It felt so good, not only for her, but for me too. It’s just this sort of satisfaction I cannot explain.

Go on and be someone’s cause of euphoria today :-D

Signing off,

Divi!

Just an opinion!- A blog series @TheNameIsDivi!

This series is a blog series where I share my opinions on one-liners that I got from my readers a while ago. To fill in your entry please do do here. To learn more about the series, please read this post.

Read all previous episodes of the series here-Just an opinion !

Just an opinion: Episode 3- “How to stop thinking about what others think about me?…”

Disclaimer: This post might be a bit rude, please feel free to not-comment negative things.

Hello everyone! Welcome to the 3rd episode of Just an Opinion! I’ve really had so much fun doing this, but this week onwards I’ll try to speed up and finish all my entries as soon as I can, so that it’ll give way for newer, fresher content.

Today’s entry is by a lively blogger, an IRL friend and a fellow BTS army. She asked me to keep her name private, which I think was a joke, but she signed up for promoting her blog. She runs a Blog called Yours Aarya Mali, which is a personal cum lifestyle blog, as she said in her entry. Go to her blog right now! don’t forget to come back.

Hmmm… I started this blog to express my thoughts and just HAVING FUN! I’m passionate about writing and that’s the only reason this blog is alive. Also, this space is created for crackheads like me- I hope we create a place where you and I could laugh together! So be ready for all the stupid and dumb posts coming up! Byeee mah lovelies-

Aarya, author of the blog Yours Aarya Mali

Well now you know her name. Anyways, here is what she has to say-

How to stop thinking about what others think about me? or let’s just say, How to stop being insecure about my work, and ME!

I have no one way to begin with this post. Because the statement poses such a complicated issue.

But, I feel I’m brave and I can do this.

But wait, what if I’m judged?

What will people think about me if I begin the post like this?

Will people like this?


See what I did there? I showed you a live example of what being insecure is. So the problem shared by Aarya is real, and present. How often have you thought, “would they like the dress?” or “I don’t think they’ll like it”? How often did YOU like it? Now, while writing this, I might go too extreme, so bear with me.

Let me write this from an Indian perspective. In the real society, there are unsaid norms that everyone should follow. Every Gender has different rules. Whether it be about toxic masculinity or shadowed femininity. I get it, times are changing, but if you step out of the norm, you’d bring notice and the word would spread around the entire town. Though not faster and uglier than before, things matter even now.

Such suppressed circumstances lead to what we call insecurity. For example, I feel insecure while wearing sleeveless tops. Nobody ever objected me about it, but then I feel strange. Not gonna lie, I do question what would people think. (I’m trying to change that.)

But it is difficult to live underneath this pressure. Like hello, when are you going to do things you like? You don’t wear short dresses but you like them, you can’t cry when you want to, all because you’re not supposed to?

See, nobody wrote these rules and nobody really finds anything objectionable, but it’s the way they talk. While “people” gossip, they pick up these topics. But they do forget. I hear the regular gossip queens talking such things, “You saw her clothing? She has such a bad taste.”

First off, it is really icky to backbite, especially about someone’s taste. When something is genuinely wrong, you can talk. But passing comments? Stop it before I throw a chappal at you from the screen. (chappal is something we say in India for a piece of footwear, for all non-indian readers.)

Second, them commenting is not going to change anything. Everyone doesn’t have a similar taste and it is okay. Wear what you like, do what you want.

The best way is to take off this fake social pressure. Ignore it. When your life flashes before your eyes, do you want to see all boring social norms you followed for impressing someone or do you want to see exciting things you did? So simply, walk it off. PEOPLE WILL FORGET.

In the end, what matters is your satisfaction. If you’re too insecure about your work, you should take that leap of faith. Jo hoga, dekha jaayega (a small phrase in Hindi which translates to “whatever happens, we’ll take care of it”). Even if the feedback you receive is harsh, but true, try to take it in a constructive manner. But put it out. Your work might be something valuable to someone else, and importantly, you.

I hope I provided some value to your time, because that’s all I have to say today.

And what makes me qualified to write this post? Well, I am not afraid to put this post out, though I know I have jitters. But you’re still reading this aren’t you?

Signing off,

Divi.