Notions I trashed that helped me boost positivity!

Hello! How is everyone’s day going? Positive, I hope. We’re all in a bad phase in life, a bit of optimism is what we need. Lockdown started out pretty hard but we all just made the best out of it. Honestly, let’s look at the brighter side; Family dinners together, binge watching favorite movies at home, having little picnics and garden parties at home; ah, so wonderful!

Enough of cheesy talk though. Onto today’s post!

As I said, positivity is the need of hour. So I did some self-renovation. I figured there were a few thoughts that weren’t worth keeping in my head, so guess what, I trashed them.

-Everyone’s having a better life.

I have this feeling, this insecurity that everyone is somehow, having a better life than me. The truth is harsh. Turns out people have worse ways to live. Comparing myself to to others was one of the worst thing I ever did. I always thought that everyone has a perfect life. From the coolest kid in the class to the closest friend I have, I particularly compared my problems to theirs. Little did I know that everyone has misery, but not everyone shows it.

-Nobody needs me!

Ah, turns out some people do. This is a sort of feeling where you don’t realize the feeling until the moment approaches. I said these words when I was 11. I guess I got into a fight or something. I was angry, sad and scared. We say piercing words when we’re angry. Over time, I found the right friends who made me feel special. My parents always made me feel wanted, since the beginning. As I always say, Time makes a difference.

-People are copying me

People copying me always made me sad. Not jealous or mad, but sad. Sad because people are forgetting their true essence, their true interests. Everyone, literally everyone has someone who is copying them. I was totally bothered with people copying me or being like me, but then I had my mom saying, “In turn you must be happy! People are trying to be like you. It turns out you’re better!”. So yeah, I bothered about trashed it. There are so many people trying to look like Taylor Swift and sing like her, and she just wears all of it SO WELL.

But again, I try to talk to people I REALLY care about, regarding this. And they understand me. The others, well, don’t bother.

-People care about you

Wrong again. Turns out most of them don’t. You do something wrong once, people talk about it. The next day, list out one person who remembers anything. So we’re just an item to talk about. But people’s opinion doesn’t change the truth. What changes the truth is, us, when we act upon it. And I feel truly happy about trashing this game-changing notion. Instead, do something to impress the loved-ones. They’ll be super proud, right?

When there aren’t any useless thoughts dangling in our mind, there is lot more place for optimism. You start looking at everything in a different way. I hope this post has helped you and is speaking to you directly. Take these words from experience :-)

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Inconsistency. (Plus, a tip from me)

Inconsistency, my god. Such a drag. I’m not only a procrastination expert but super inconsistent too. If you feel I’m exaggerating, honey, I’m not. I’m stating pure facts. I try to keep up a good habit but eventually I get lazy. After all, this is ‘me’ we’re talking about.

Still don’t believe me? Let me narrate you a small extract from my totally spontaneous life.

I was totally getting confused about keeping my sister’s and my room (hereafter referred to as ‘our room’ ) clutter free. I had to reduce things in our room, at least to prevent myself from tripping over the toys and literally un-name-able objects lying on the floor.

One fine day, I said to myself “This is it. Do or die, I have to get rid of stuff”. Sometimes, we need to be hard on ourselves, shouldn’t we? That’s my super motivated self.

So I officially made the room clutter-free, or maybe for the next 7 days. I enjoyed that feeling of emptiness, of not tripping over your own stuff and positive vibes. “Feng-Shui is working pretty well”, I said and soon I jinxed our room. I tried to maintain the room the same way for what, the next two days {Not even a week} and I got tired {!!!}. Myself doesn’t like me working so hard, so I left it. Again, one fine day, all the clutter and crap piles up an I have to work my butt off.

You see the circle?

My parents keep telling me about being consistent. But boy, did I ever listen?

No.

Unless we tell ourselves that we need to be consistent, no matter who lectures us, we’re nowhere to be working consistently. To be honest, I still haven’t figured this out myself. But one thing that seems to work is reaffirmation. I set alarms from time to time to remind myself about some little things that slip away from my mind easily. One for doing my chores, one for reading and another for taking C Vitamin, maybe? Think about it.

So I’m always trying to remind myself that I need to do things regularly. Like exercising. I like doing it, but I’d be like ” I’m just not in the mood to do it”. That is the lamest excuse ever. So self-motivation is super important.

Take these words from a non-expert but an insightful teen.

Happy Saturday! {I couldn’t put it at the start of the post because it didn’t fit the theme of the paragraph.}

I still haven’t taken my C-Vitamin. I better go to it.

How do you try to stay consistent with any new hobby you pick up? You’ve got any additional tips to suggest? Feel free to drop a message to my mailbox divyagunnabathula@gmail.com or leave it in the comments!

Love,

Divi.

*Questions welcome! I'm kinda planning to do a Q and A post soon (or maybe later, who knows), so if y'all have any questions, literally any thing, about me, blogging, school life- drop a message, here! Looking forward to answering and writing!*