Just an opinion: Episode 4, A.K.A. Friend appreciation post || “What if we lived in a world where everyone had a circle of friends that supported them…”||

Hello everyone, how are you guys doing? Good, I hope. If you aren’t, you have a girl who’s cheering on you even now! (hint- that’s me.)

So, I received today’s one liner from Maggie. Maggie runs a Personal blog, where she posts about photography, lifestyle, and tips for almost everything! I really love reading her optimism filled posts! Please visit her blog!

maggie’s doodles is a creative lifestyle site featuring photography, life inspiration, doodles, and fun projects!

Maggies, author of Maggie’s Doodles!

Here’s what Maggie’s liner says:

What if we lived in a world where everyone had a circle of friends that supported them, checked in on them, and made sure they’re doing well?

*Before we begin, I’ve noticed some of you readers have been confused as to who wrote what, This isn’t a guest post. All the content is written by me (Divi), where I write my opinion regarding their statements. *

Umm yes, this is true and I agree hundred percent.

I know a kid in school who’s always alone, who doesn’t have friends around, and before in our lower grades, I heard he used to be bullied a lot. I didn’t know a lot then, so naturally, I never reported that.

On the last day of ninth grade, which was recently, I was clicking pictures with my group of friends. The feeling was incomparable. I’d been with them since kindergarten, and 11 years later, I saw my best friends with me. I felt safe. Then I saw that kid, he was near a tree, he was sitting alone amidst a huge crowd.

See I’m not a saintly person. I didn’t go and talk to him, I just walked away like I didn’t care. But I tried to feel like he did. When so many teenagers are with their friends and having their own thing going on, and you’re all alone, how would you feel?

My friends always keep checking on me, and they genuinely congratulate me or console me caringly. It’s hard to imagine when someone so special is just, absent, in your life. That kid had absolutely no friends, there would be nobody to console him when he got hit, there would be nobody to congratulate him on getting good grades.

We all need friends. They’d crack jokes to make you laugh, they would never make you feel alone and their sole mission is to see you happy. Outside my family, I don’t think anyone else checks up on me more than my friends do. When I was sick, they messaged everyday, and gave their support. They also did make fun of me on my birthday though.

Seeing lone people just somehow shatters me so much, because there is absolutely no one for them to talk to. There’s no one for them to speak their mind or just have a companion to walk home.

There are so many people like that, who don’t have a healthy group of friends. They’re all around us. Take that step forward and talk to them. I once did that to a new girl at school, and now she’s relatively better, she became a good friend of mine. It felt so good, not only for her, but for me too. It’s just this sort of satisfaction I cannot explain.

Go on and be someone’s cause of euphoria today :-D

Signing off,

Divi!

Just an opinion!- A blog series @TheNameIsDivi!

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Just an opinion: Episode 3- “How to stop thinking about what others think about me?…”

Disclaimer: This post might be a bit rude, please feel free to not-comment negative things.

Hello everyone! Welcome to the 3rd episode of Just an Opinion! I’ve really had so much fun doing this, but this week onwards I’ll try to speed up and finish all my entries as soon as I can, so that it’ll give way for newer, fresher content.

Today’s entry is by a lively blogger, an IRL friend and a fellow BTS army. She asked me to keep her name private, which I think was a joke, but she signed up for promoting her blog. She runs a Blog called Yours Aarya Mali, which is a personal cum lifestyle blog, as she said in her entry. Go to her blog right now! don’t forget to come back.

Hmmm… I started this blog to express my thoughts and just HAVING FUN! I’m passionate about writing and that’s the only reason this blog is alive. Also, this space is created for crackheads like me- I hope we create a place where you and I could laugh together! So be ready for all the stupid and dumb posts coming up! Byeee mah lovelies-

Aarya, author of the blog Yours Aarya Mali

Well now you know her name. Anyways, here is what she has to say-

How to stop thinking about what others think about me? or let’s just say, How to stop being insecure about my work, and ME!

I have no one way to begin with this post. Because the statement poses such a complicated issue.

But, I feel I’m brave and I can do this.

But wait, what if I’m judged?

What will people think about me if I begin the post like this?

Will people like this?


See what I did there? I showed you a live example of what being insecure is. So the problem shared by Aarya is real, and present. How often have you thought, “would they like the dress?” or “I don’t think they’ll like it”? How often did YOU like it? Now, while writing this, I might go too extreme, so bear with me.

Let me write this from an Indian perspective. In the real society, there are unsaid norms that everyone should follow. Every Gender has different rules. Whether it be about toxic masculinity or shadowed femininity. I get it, times are changing, but if you step out of the norm, you’d bring notice and the word would spread around the entire town. Though not faster and uglier than before, things matter even now.

Such suppressed circumstances lead to what we call insecurity. For example, I feel insecure while wearing sleeveless tops. Nobody ever objected me about it, but then I feel strange. Not gonna lie, I do question what would people think. (I’m trying to change that.)

But it is difficult to live underneath this pressure. Like hello, when are you going to do things you like? You don’t wear short dresses but you like them, you can’t cry when you want to, all because you’re not supposed to?

See, nobody wrote these rules and nobody really finds anything objectionable, but it’s the way they talk. While “people” gossip, they pick up these topics. But they do forget. I hear the regular gossip queens talking such things, “You saw her clothing? She has such a bad taste.”

First off, it is really icky to backbite, especially about someone’s taste. When something is genuinely wrong, you can talk. But passing comments? Stop it before I throw a chappal at you from the screen. (chappal is something we say in India for a piece of footwear, for all non-indian readers.)

Second, them commenting is not going to change anything. Everyone doesn’t have a similar taste and it is okay. Wear what you like, do what you want.

The best way is to take off this fake social pressure. Ignore it. When your life flashes before your eyes, do you want to see all boring social norms you followed for impressing someone or do you want to see exciting things you did? So simply, walk it off. PEOPLE WILL FORGET.

In the end, what matters is your satisfaction. If you’re too insecure about your work, you should take that leap of faith. Jo hoga, dekha jaayega (a small phrase in Hindi which translates to “whatever happens, we’ll take care of it”). Even if the feedback you receive is harsh, but true, try to take it in a constructive manner. But put it out. Your work might be something valuable to someone else, and importantly, you.

I hope I provided some value to your time, because that’s all I have to say today.

And what makes me qualified to write this post? Well, I am not afraid to put this post out, though I know I have jitters. But you’re still reading this aren’t you?

Signing off,

Divi.

Just an opinion: Episode 2- “We need more celebrities and influencers addressing things like mental health, the system…”

Hello everyone! Welcome to episode two of our blog series!

Today’s episode features Ib, from ” It’s Ib! “.

It’s Ib blog is a lifestyle(?) blog run by a confused lady about to reach her 20s’, that’s me! It’s just a medium for me to share my thoughts and interests with whoever may be interested. I’m just here to have fun, interact with other people of the same interest and just live, I guess. Thank you Divi! 💜

Ib, Author of ‘It’s Ib’ Blog.

Ib has a very cheery and funny personality when she expresses it in her blog. I love how her posts are always so optimistic! Please go check out her blog!

Here’s what she has to say-

We need more celebrities and influencers addressing things like mental health, the system and not just trying to paint a perfect picture of their lives on social media

*Before we begin, I’ve noticed some of you readers have been confused as to who wrote what, This isn’t a guest post. All the content is written by me (Divi), where I write my opinion regarding their statements. *

Clearly by “celebrities and influencers addressing things like mental health, the system”, you mean like BTS. I agree one hundred percent. I also disagree a bit.

The last episode, I wrote about unrealistic expectations. The reason I took up Ib’s entry as the next was because this is quite related to it in that perspective.

What would you expect in a celebrity social media handle? Picture perfect shots of them vacationing, them with family, them with their dog, them with their mascara, them with their pasta and crap like that. When you sum up all of these, you kind of get a picture. “This woman is living it up” or “That is the perfect life that I wish for”. Thought these things much?

My biggest issue with all of this propaganda is that, it’s not fake, but it’s not true either.

Behind those beach parties, dog, pasta, family, vacation, there is a whole lot of stuff going on. Probably some sponsorships, or product endorsements. Maybe they’re SUPPOSED to post it online.

Credits to owner.

But I get the point Ib is trying to make. Why not use their influence for a better cause?

We all live in a world that has people full of insecurities. No, I’m not criticizing, I have loads of insecurities, so I’m one of you all. After seeing such perfect things, unrealistic expectations are so high. We all need motivation, like, “hey buddy, you don’t need to be perfect”.

Instead we see celebrities promoting consumerism. (Oh look at my expensive clothing, my mercedes, my coffee that comes in plastic everday!)


Talk about celebrities with plastic surgeries and cosmetic enhancements? When popular figures like them are insecure and dissatisfied with their own body (and literally go to the lengths of altering it), how do you expect Gen Z to be confident about themselves? The impact such behaviour can have, is depressing. (So before you judge our generation, talk about our role models first.)

It’s all toxic and sometimes suffocating, too. Like you’d feel like you’re never gonna be like them or as perfect as them.

If you do think like that, please ditch all those useless thoughts. They’re of no actual use. PERIOD.

Let’s come to the second part. Mental health issues need to be addressed, now especially since mental health issues are mainstream. A while ago, Ariana Grande donated a million dollars for a mental health campaign that gave people free therapy. BTS launched the love yourself campaign. I feel a few really do make a change. I’m not a BlackPink fan, but they advocate for climate change. I really like it when people come together for a greater cause.

Yes, we need more outspoken people who have a vision to change. Yes we need more true and not so perfect celebs.

But again, they’re normal people like us. They aren’t saints to always do social service, they’re just enjoying their money. Tell me, as a normal human being, would you let go of all the luxuries money can buy? Or would you give it all up for charity? The balance, is somewhere in the middle.

Signing off,

Divi.

Just an opinion!- A blog series @TheNameIsDivi!

This series is a blog series where I share my opinions on one-liners that I got from my readers a while ago. To fill in your entry please do do here. To learn more about the series, please read this post.

Just an opinion: Episode 1- “I’m tired of seeing aesthetic bookstagrammers and their oh so amazing shelves…”

Hello everyone! Today’s post is the very first episode in the Just an Opinion blog series! I recieved such intriguing entries, I’m so happy I got so many!

Today’s episode features Sep, from Bookishly Yours. (One of my favorite bloggers out there)

Bookishly Yours is a blog where I (Sep) talk about books. No, I don’t have a huge fancy library, but I love books. I’m always up and ready for a bookish talks. Oh, and my blog has poetry, and other stuff too! (probably not the best description).

Sep, Author of Bookishly yours.

It is a great description, it’s all quirky and humorous~~

Here’s what she has to say-

I’m tired of seeing aesthetic bookstagrammers and their oh so amazing shelves. Don’t you think there should be more bookstagrammers who don’t have huge shelves but love to read?

First up, I do agree and disagree with you.

Vocabulary time- Bookstagrammer: A person who maintains a bookstagram, meaning a books-themed instagram account.

Fake expectation-anxiety is an actual thing. The bookstagrammers post such pretty pictures of their photos, it sometimes seems too good to be true. Despite not being on instagram, I think I understand what this means. On pinterest, the pictures’ level is somewhere up in the sky. Credits to their talents, but isn’t it too demotivating? Someone who wants to begin something, they’d see all this, the person would be so overwhelmed, they’d give up on this right away, saying “Man, I won’t ever be able to do it this good!”

The same thing would happen with the so-called “perfect” bookstagrammers.

Photo by Aleksey Sokolenko on Pexels.com

There picture perfect filter-thick pictures of huge bookshelves and over exaggerated emotions are enough to lead you away from reading. Because that isn’t the point of reading. The excessive beautification of a book gives you fake expectations, that you should do something similar to this. But it isn’t practically possible to read in an aesthetic comfortable atmosphere.

I mean, we all read on couches in our twisted positions that give us backaches.

And I don’t own a lot of books too. I bought the books in my home library when I was in my tweens, after that I didn’t buy many. The majority of the books I’ve read are either library borrowed, friend exchanges, or e-books.

So this is the part where I agree with Sep’s statement. There should be more bookstagrammers who don’t have a fancy library, but love to read.

Loving a book isn’t that easy. All of you people, who think reading is easy and can be done by just merely reading- no it’s not. Book reading is so personal to so many people like myself. Who like to own the characters, plotline, get immersed into the story entirely and read every single line and make out so many interpretations out of the words that convey the deep emotions. That is serious thinking.

And do you even know how hard it is to let go of a book and move on to another?

Photo by George Milton on Pexels.com

Reading 20 such books that touch you deeply and change you for life is greater than reading a huge bookshelf full of books that you read for bragging you’ve read those many.

So yes again, there should be bookstagrammers who don’t have fancy shelves but want to share their experience of reading books they like.

Coming to the disagreement.

Bookstagrammers use aesthetics for visual appeal, we all know that. Tell me fairly, do we all feel inclined towards a block of text or a picture? Not everyone likes reading such huge texts, no matter how good the content is.

At the end of the day, aesthetics, are just to bring the people in. Take my blog’s case for example. I try using aesthetics in my post, which are totally unrelated at times. It’s just a small trick people like me use for bringing people in and read your content. (mind you, this isn’t clickbait.)

Apart from that, aesthetics serve no purpose.

But sometimes, we should just leave it to them. Perhaps doing things like that give them satisfaction. I myself love doing photo set-ups for my object photoshoots.

In the end, I feel tired seeing the unrealistic aesthetic culture spreading, no matter how pretty it can make things seem. I’m all for actual content based approach, because aesthetics may go out of trend, but content never does.

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.

Just an opinion!- A blog series @TheNameIsDivi!

This series is a blog series where I share my opinions on one-liners that I got from my readers a while ago. To fill in your entry please do do here. To learn more about the series, please read this post.

Just an Opinion- a brand new blog series!

So, how are my readers doing? I hope you’re okay, in any part of the world you live in.

I’ve been thinking of doing a blog series for a while, and I thought, I could write about something I was good at- Giving opinions. Opinions no one needs. I wanted to write about some social issues, or controversial topics or give my opinions on a one liner.

But that’s when I got another idea.

What if, I got one-liners from you?

This would be more exciting, and relevant, since I get entries from you. So, I was thinking of receiving one-line statements from you. How do you do it?

I’d attach a google form along with this post. You could fill it, and you don’t ‘need’ to add your email. You could give a one-liner anonymously as well. But if you do disclose your name, I’d surely give credit to you.

Your one-liner could be something like-

  • I genuinely feel the education system needs to change
  • I don’t like E-books
  • How do I fight insecurities?

….and so on.

Guidelines, instructions and everything else:

  • You could give me a one-liner regarding ANY topic. For example- Advice, Blogging, writing, reading, social issue, etc. I’d do 10 episodes, 12 tops.
  • Your one liner would be the heading, and the more insightful and thought provoking, the better.
  • Your name would be mentioned. You could give me a fake name if you wish to be anonymous.
  • You can also promote your blog through this. More details on this one in the form.
  • You can fill out this form multiple times and give various entries.

Fill out the form here.

I really expect many entries to pour in. Remember, you only have to give a statement. That is all! Once you’ve filled it, let me know in the comments!

I’d begin the series once I’ve received a good number of entries!