Just an opinion: Episode 3- “How to stop thinking about what others think about me?…”

Disclaimer: This post might be a bit rude, please feel free to not-comment negative things.

Hello everyone! Welcome to the 3rd episode of Just an Opinion! I’ve really had so much fun doing this, but this week onwards I’ll try to speed up and finish all my entries as soon as I can, so that it’ll give way for newer, fresher content.

Today’s entry is by a lively blogger, an IRL friend and a fellow BTS army. She asked me to keep her name private, which I think was a joke, but she signed up for promoting her blog. She runs a Blog called Yours Aarya Mali, which is a personal cum lifestyle blog, as she said in her entry. Go to her blog right now! don’t forget to come back.

Hmmm… I started this blog to express my thoughts and just HAVING FUN! I’m passionate about writing and that’s the only reason this blog is alive. Also, this space is created for crackheads like me- I hope we create a place where you and I could laugh together! So be ready for all the stupid and dumb posts coming up! Byeee mah lovelies-

Aarya, author of the blog Yours Aarya Mali

Well now you know her name. Anyways, here is what she has to say-

How to stop thinking about what others think about me? or let’s just say, How to stop being insecure about my work, and ME!

I have no one way to begin with this post. Because the statement poses such a complicated issue.

But, I feel I’m brave and I can do this.

But wait, what if I’m judged?

What will people think about me if I begin the post like this?

Will people like this?


See what I did there? I showed you a live example of what being insecure is. So the problem shared by Aarya is real, and present. How often have you thought, “would they like the dress?” or “I don’t think they’ll like it”? How often did YOU like it? Now, while writing this, I might go too extreme, so bear with me.

Let me write this from an Indian perspective. In the real society, there are unsaid norms that everyone should follow. Every Gender has different rules. Whether it be about toxic masculinity or shadowed femininity. I get it, times are changing, but if you step out of the norm, you’d bring notice and the word would spread around the entire town. Though not faster and uglier than before, things matter even now.

Such suppressed circumstances lead to what we call insecurity. For example, I feel insecure while wearing sleeveless tops. Nobody ever objected me about it, but then I feel strange. Not gonna lie, I do question what would people think. (I’m trying to change that.)

But it is difficult to live underneath this pressure. Like hello, when are you going to do things you like? You don’t wear short dresses but you like them, you can’t cry when you want to, all because you’re not supposed to?

See, nobody wrote these rules and nobody really finds anything objectionable, but it’s the way they talk. While “people” gossip, they pick up these topics. But they do forget. I hear the regular gossip queens talking such things, “You saw her clothing? She has such a bad taste.”

First off, it is really icky to backbite, especially about someone’s taste. When something is genuinely wrong, you can talk. But passing comments? Stop it before I throw a chappal at you from the screen. (chappal is something we say in India for a piece of footwear, for all non-indian readers.)

Second, them commenting is not going to change anything. Everyone doesn’t have a similar taste and it is okay. Wear what you like, do what you want.

The best way is to take off this fake social pressure. Ignore it. When your life flashes before your eyes, do you want to see all boring social norms you followed for impressing someone or do you want to see exciting things you did? So simply, walk it off. PEOPLE WILL FORGET.

In the end, what matters is your satisfaction. If you’re too insecure about your work, you should take that leap of faith. Jo hoga, dekha jaayega (a small phrase in Hindi which translates to “whatever happens, we’ll take care of it”). Even if the feedback you receive is harsh, but true, try to take it in a constructive manner. But put it out. Your work might be something valuable to someone else, and importantly, you.

I hope I provided some value to your time, because that’s all I have to say today.

And what makes me qualified to write this post? Well, I am not afraid to put this post out, though I know I have jitters. But you’re still reading this aren’t you?

Signing off,

Divi.

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Just an opinion: Episode 1- “I’m tired of seeing aesthetic bookstagrammers and their oh so amazing shelves…”

Hello everyone! Today’s post is the very first episode in the Just an Opinion blog series! I recieved such intriguing entries, I’m so happy I got so many!

Today’s episode features Sep, from Bookishly Yours. (One of my favorite bloggers out there)

Bookishly Yours is a blog where I (Sep) talk about books. No, I don’t have a huge fancy library, but I love books. I’m always up and ready for a bookish talks. Oh, and my blog has poetry, and other stuff too! (probably not the best description).

Sep, Author of Bookishly yours.

It is a great description, it’s all quirky and humorous~~

Here’s what she has to say-

I’m tired of seeing aesthetic bookstagrammers and their oh so amazing shelves. Don’t you think there should be more bookstagrammers who don’t have huge shelves but love to read?

First up, I do agree and disagree with you.

Vocabulary time- Bookstagrammer: A person who maintains a bookstagram, meaning a books-themed instagram account.

Fake expectation-anxiety is an actual thing. The bookstagrammers post such pretty pictures of their photos, it sometimes seems too good to be true. Despite not being on instagram, I think I understand what this means. On pinterest, the pictures’ level is somewhere up in the sky. Credits to their talents, but isn’t it too demotivating? Someone who wants to begin something, they’d see all this, the person would be so overwhelmed, they’d give up on this right away, saying “Man, I won’t ever be able to do it this good!”

The same thing would happen with the so-called “perfect” bookstagrammers.

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There picture perfect filter-thick pictures of huge bookshelves and over exaggerated emotions are enough to lead you away from reading. Because that isn’t the point of reading. The excessive beautification of a book gives you fake expectations, that you should do something similar to this. But it isn’t practically possible to read in an aesthetic comfortable atmosphere.

I mean, we all read on couches in our twisted positions that give us backaches.

And I don’t own a lot of books too. I bought the books in my home library when I was in my tweens, after that I didn’t buy many. The majority of the books I’ve read are either library borrowed, friend exchanges, or e-books.

So this is the part where I agree with Sep’s statement. There should be more bookstagrammers who don’t have a fancy library, but love to read.

Loving a book isn’t that easy. All of you people, who think reading is easy and can be done by just merely reading- no it’s not. Book reading is so personal to so many people like myself. Who like to own the characters, plotline, get immersed into the story entirely and read every single line and make out so many interpretations out of the words that convey the deep emotions. That is serious thinking.

And do you even know how hard it is to let go of a book and move on to another?

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Reading 20 such books that touch you deeply and change you for life is greater than reading a huge bookshelf full of books that you read for bragging you’ve read those many.

So yes again, there should be bookstagrammers who don’t have fancy shelves but want to share their experience of reading books they like.

Coming to the disagreement.

Bookstagrammers use aesthetics for visual appeal, we all know that. Tell me fairly, do we all feel inclined towards a block of text or a picture? Not everyone likes reading such huge texts, no matter how good the content is.

At the end of the day, aesthetics, are just to bring the people in. Take my blog’s case for example. I try using aesthetics in my post, which are totally unrelated at times. It’s just a small trick people like me use for bringing people in and read your content. (mind you, this isn’t clickbait.)

Apart from that, aesthetics serve no purpose.

But sometimes, we should just leave it to them. Perhaps doing things like that give them satisfaction. I myself love doing photo set-ups for my object photoshoots.

In the end, I feel tired seeing the unrealistic aesthetic culture spreading, no matter how pretty it can make things seem. I’m all for actual content based approach, because aesthetics may go out of trend, but content never does.

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.

Just an opinion!- A blog series @TheNameIsDivi!

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City lights-An essay I wrote that isn’t for school

Hey you! Yes, the one reading this. I don’t know where you’re from, at the end of the day we’re both from Earth. Hear me out. This is important.

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Out of exhaustion by over thinking a lot, I collapsed all of a sudden onto my back, on the couch. I stared emptily at the crisp white ceiling. I observed the ceiling fan, spinning without ambition. The LED light shone even when the sunlight was just enough. Yet, I just stared. Nor did I even make an attempt to move a muscle. Meh, it’s just a light and a fan. Not that I affect the world.

Fast forward to a few days, I saw on the news that the UK has an ongoing fuel crisis. People are literally out of fuel. For now, they could borrow or arrange supplies from elsewhere.

As per my knowledge, fuels take millennia to form, especially fossil fuels. We began using fuels only a few centuries ago. Looking at where we’re now, 20-30 years, that’s it. We would run out of fuel everywhere. And this time, we cannot borrow from any country either. Unless new replacements are found, we’re pretty much back to the old times.

Forget about fuels, we’re scheduling our doomsday. I wouldn’t want to exaggerate, but this is serious. Higher and higher temperatures everyday. Climate change is everywhere. Though leaders across the world are coming together for prevention of global catastrophes, it’s still not prevalent. What we lack is initiative. And the saddest part is that it’s not only humans who would get affected.

Along with humans, animals, birds, marine life, everything and everyone would get affected. I wouldn’t go too far by accusing this as a consequence of the humans’ actions. I would, though, point this out as the consequences of our ignorance.

Talking about ignorance, aren’t we all blinded by our own ignorance? Take my case, for example! I turn on fans I don’t even need and leave lights on their own when I can make do with sunlight.

I leave water taps open whilst I brush my teeth, I waste electricity when I sit in front of my PC doing non-productive things.

When we all start listing out all what we do at home out of ignorance, we would question our own actions. And then, we would take initiative. Ignorance isn’t bliss after all.

I peek through the balcony, see the city lights blinking and busy vehicles quickly rushing by on the bridge. And all I wish for, is that everything stays the same.


I really thought this would be a very meaningful post to share. And this is the only essay I haven’t written for an assignment at school. I’m accustomed to writing essays for competitions and contests, never was I so deeply moved to write something that doesn’t have a due date. I pondered, what would really happen if everything just suddenly shut down, vehicles, factories, buildings, everything.

But it’s our earth, only we can protect it’s sanctity.

Today, I request every reader out there to confess all the things they do, which are ignorant from an environmental perspective.

Let’s put forth our regrets and take initiative. Let’s chat in the comments.

I’ve done it, now I want you to, too.

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.