trying to write without a topic|| Thoughts on a rainy day|| Book slumps and reading again.

Correction, rainy days, not day, because, IT WON’T STOP.

My exams got over and it felt like my Boards got over. I was dancing yesterday and my friends literally had to tell me stop. “It was only the first exam, we get it.”

The entire day, I was in. When I could go and cycle alone or maybe listen to music and walk. But no. It wouldn’t stop raining. Rains are very ✨idealistic for writer’s- don’t get me wrong- but like, staying in the whole day is weird. It got so chilly, I have to wear cardigans and sweaters already.

The perfect thing I did was read. Read till my eyes felt sore. And I think I had my fastest read yet, 450 pages in 1.5 day. I feel so proud. My gracious friend from school let me borrow Fangirl and wow. I just liked how authentic the book was.

(Again, shoutout to my ⭐awesome⭐ friend for letting me borrow this book and letting me click cute pictures with her book. She didn’t say anything about the last part, but I had to do it. Thank you!)

Also feel free to look at all the self help book abundance we have at home in the picture.

But, picture yourself on a cold, chilly, rainy day, when days are dull. You’re sipping on coffee mixed with chocolate. Bitter yet sweet. And you’re reading this book. That, that, is comfort. That was this book. Comfort. It made me feel as if I was wrapped with a warm blanket that took me away from this world.

Books are like that sometimes. It’s like you meet a stranger but is like an old friend you recognize instantly and comforts you by giving you their warmth. I romanticize too much, but books are like that. They are like that, far from reality, utopian and ideal.

Not my picture but wish it was-😭😭

I feel a book that does that is so special. On so many levels. And when you finish it, you feel hollow. That is the endgame. You’ve read a good book.

I don’t even know why I’m doing this, whole book appreciation post. But sometimes, it’s like the only thing I feel I am connected to, materialistically. And no matter how many times I talk about books, it never stops being new to me.

So with all the exams preparations, I didn’t read for a whole month. Now I’m a free bird~

Also, can you love something but hate it at the same time? I love monsoons, but I hate them. Yes you get to be at home all day, but no, you have to stay at home all day. Those are two different statements that don’t sit well together. It’s a complicated feeling.

I had a writer’s block, past SO many weeks. I kind of feel guilty for not writing and doing what I love. I’ve been neglecting things on the internet. But truth be spoken, I definitely did not think of how I’d manage school and blogging. I thought I could pull it off, but I cannot. I’m still in that gray area, figuring out how to make things work. It’ll take months. But I have hope because this blog, is my safe space. I will not give up on this.

I’ve also stopped reading posts by other bloggers here on WordPress, and I feel kind of sad for not doing so. I’ll try to catch up with things step-by-step.

As for you readers, I would really love to chat with you guys! I’ll try to reply to your comments as much as I can!

To all my high schooler friends out there- How’s school treating you? All bookworms- What was the last book you’ve read?

Eager to know what you all have to say~

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.

Wanting a life reset *so* bad + yay it’s June!

Hey people, welcome back to my blog! My vacations are finally ending 😭 and it’s gonna be hard getting back to the school routine. Today’s post is gonna be all about, a life reset.

Do you ever wish if only our life had a reset button? I do that, like everyday. My life status is always in like a deep pit of mess and despair. I do so many things, and by many, possibly a hundred. I’ve got so many projects going on, after a while of trying to tackle ALL of them, I take a step back.

I realize-

Number one, what crap have I gotten myself into?

Number two, how do I finish all this??

Basically I’m the type who does gazillion projects at once, and gets things done on time. But the process is a little…crazy? I get myself to a burnout stage doing all that stuff, all at once. I mentally suffocate myself trying to be that all-achiever and multi-tasking girl.

If you relate to that, we’re in the same boat. You, my friend, need a reset like I did.

Clean up your mess

So once realization takes over, the first thing I do is clean things up. Virtually and literally. All those things on the checklist, you cannot cancel them and leave them hanging on the thread. Finish all the current projects, and do nothing new for a while.

Then I go on a declutter mode. Is it just me, or is decluttering  ACTUALLY pretty relaxing?

Once everything on the plate is done, there’s actual time left for yourself. I like using this time to clean my room, maybe my shelf, wardrobe too, if I feel productive. Trashing away things you don’t need anymore, is the perfect way to reset.

This was me, I like decluttering because it frees up space for positivity and I feel good about it. You could find your groove, something that helps clear up your mind.

Change of routine

I like picking up a new daily routine. It’s nice to change a few things in your day, for the good, of course. Instead of waking up at 7 AM, maybe you could wake up at 6 AM? You’ve got an extra hour on your hands, that gives you more room for energizing things to do. Maybe workout more, or perhaps go for a cycle ride in the evening alone?

During my exams this February, instead of studying 2PM till 6PM, I went for a run between 5PM and 6PM. Then extended my study till 7PM. There’s a break, a difference a routine. It makes things feel less boring, and more exciting and new.

Style change

Changing up your style is really cool, if you want to reset. Like a 2.0 version of yourself? I like to try different combinations than I usually wear, and generally after I clean out my wardrobe, I find all these *hidden outfits* at the back of my shelf. I don’t insist on buying new dresses, instead different combinations with the dresses you already have. I spend a week on Pinterest looking for style options and different combinations, hairstyles. Anything that is different from what I usually look like.

(I said style change and NOT wardrobe change. Be more sustainable, don’t hoard clothes, it’s not good for your pocket AND the environment. )

Affirmations

Positive affirmations help. A life reset gives a feeling of being, reborn (sounds like some superhero dialogue, but okay). I come across such stuff on the internet, like affirming quotes that energize you from within. I like reading such things, they just give you a new slice of life.

Expose yourself to positivity

Coming out of a mess is never too late. At least you’ve taken initiative. Expose yourself to positive things, that don’t make you feel guilty about being on a break. Surround yourself with good people. Control what you see on the internet.

I personally love seeing Pinterest pins about productivity, health goals and self-care. Exposing yourself to such things gradually takes you in such a state of mind.

So that is all for this post! Remember, you are your priority, don’t burnout yourself! Take good care, be productive and remember to relax. I hope your life reset goes well~

Also guys, happy june~~ it’s already half of 2022! Plus its birthday month, so see me smiling ear to ear. My birthday’s in four days, and is it normal not having any excitement? I feel I’m getting too old, I wish I could tell myself “yo stop growing now” 😭😭😭

I hope this month is gonna be great for all of us, and hopefully my blog too 🙈.

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.

Photo dump of pictures since february~ ||Photo post #7

Hey everyone! One day, I was scrolling through Pinterest and found this pin which was a video called “photo dump”. Strangely it was so cool. Like irrespective of the photo quality, it’s like those pictures are telling sort a story of, well, your life. So I thought I’d do it in a post!

Since February, I haven’t shared many pictures on the blog, heck I haven’t even written properly. There’s quite a few, so sit back and… enjoy, I guess?

Also, since I like Polaroids a lot and obviously cannot have them in real life, here is me putting pictures into digital Polaroids.

This was on my profile for a while and then I have this swiftie friend who texts and tells me that the road in the picture looks like the one from All too well! Just imagine sticking those letters here-

This was at school, and those blossoms were near school. That was the first time I saw blossoms in real life. So I got of my bicycle and took a picture. Later, I got to know, those weren’t blossoms. 🤧😭😭

I don’t know what flowers these are, but I found them in a lot of places across the city. They’re gorgeous, aren’t they?

This is a flower I’d like to call… our fruit of 5 years of hard work?

Journal pictures~ Bet you were waiting for them???

So I was influenced by paintings for a while so I scrapped few ideas off Pinterest. I tried my best 😭👐

This was the day ninth grade got over, me and my friends went out for lunch. Plans got delayed and we ended up eating pizza, at 4pm.

No, I did not buy Song of Achilles, but I would’ve if I had the chance. I just took a picture, well, because I like to show off. 🙃

I guess I was writing an essay for school? Looks pretty important though.

What’s a photo post without, sky pictures!

I posted this on my status and captioned it with “Autumn leaves falling down like pieces into place”. It wasn’t autumn though, it was just a good old almond tree shedding leaves in February.

I really wish I had instagram, just to show off like ” #I’m on a vacation #an expensive holiday in the tropics that you can’t afford” 😂💪 Well it’s just trees near my aunt’s home.

Before you go like- “What the heck is a Kalanchoe?”- it’s a plant. It bloomed pretty well, but the plant recently died. It bloomed only once, and that too were the flowers it already had when we bought it from the nursery. #RIP. (it’s not only pet owners who do that, us plant lovers do such things too)

So, umm, that is all?

I don’t know what happened, I just became a very boring writer? I hate those captions I wrote for the photos. It feels like I ran out of things to say. *sobs in writers block*

But I’ll work and think harder for new content! Till then,

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.

Yes, I still exist! || A life update.

*opens her drafts after weeks*

Hey everyone! I hope you’re all doing well! I know it’s been a while. Today I chose to crack my knuckles and finally begin writing a blog post.

So where was I all this time? Nowhere new, just same old home, and school. I was preoccupied for a while, with all the “new-school-year” crap, and things got real now. I always thought managing a blog and school will not change despite offline school, but no, I’ve successfully managed to fail at that.

Credits to owner. Via Pinterest.

No that does not mean that I’ll stop writing. It just *motivated* me to be more extracurricular and that life, isn’t only school.

Quick question- How much do I like Tenth grade?

Umm…

*scratches her head*

Out of 10 maybe a 6. Tenth grade is nice, right now, because I’m just one month in. But I think it is stressful, about how much you need to study. And peer pressure about how much you need to study JUST because you’re in tenth grade. I find it difficult to manage hundred things once right now, I was an expert at it once. So ninth graders going into tenth, take notes, you need to be good at multitasking. (Wow, I’m giving advice already.)

One important thing I’ve been wanting to say for a while was that, no matter how busy you are, never neglect time for yourself. Overworking only brings ruin (why does that sound so evil-) for you in the long run. Take care of yourself!

Also, I guess I finally came out of my book reading slump.

Credits to owner. Via Pinterest.

I’ve read quite a few books in a while, but apart from that I also think I finally found my mystery novels groove. With Agatha Christie. I’m just disappointed why I didn’t read her books, and why I was prioritizing reading Conan Doyle. I don’t think I’ve read those many plot twists in Sherlock Holmes, frankly speaking, they’re way too predictable and I sometimes find myself “obliged” to read them. A reason why I don’t like Conan Doyle. (I’ll save the dislike for another post.) I stan Agatha Christie. I also I think I became a fan of Colleen Hoover’s books.

What else is interesting? Can I say I don’t know? All I’ve done lately is eat, study, binge watch Slayy Point (why didn’t I watch their channel before???) and try to be a more determined person. Past few weeks were like so lazy and dispassionate. I felt to less creative. Okay, brace yourself for my melodrama- I felt old.

Credits to owner. Via Pinterest.

I don’t know if I’m right about this but I always associate being old with something negative. Old is non-creative, old is not fresh, old is stale (wait but isn’t it already?). And lately I’m not liking this word, because I feel old, I don’t feel young or the jumpy, hyper-excited person I usually am (my opinion, no hate towards being old). Nobody noticed this because I didn’t show, because I try to be jumpy, in hopes that it will make me feel jumpy. Kind of like fake it till you make it situation.

Then I realized. That I had a freaking blog, on which I am supposed to write and post freely.

I’m being melodramatic again, but I felt better while reflecting and writing this post. I was on the verge of killing my creativity, but happily, I’m back to blogging! I think I’ll feel non-old now.

So after a long time….

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.

Just an opinion, episode 5/ a rant: Love and people and social interaction in general are overrated + Life update

Hello, everyone! (Yes, I’m alive.)

I did disappear for a while, but then I just kept procrastinating over the blog, since the past two weeks. I’m being a toxic blogger who’s just waiting for stats to grow, without posting stuff. I’m such a hypocrite.

Coming to today’s entry, it’s by Riddhi, from whispering stories! She runs a book blog and this is something about her blog-

Whispering Stories is a blog for everything bookish, but I also sometimes post non-bookish musical, movie-related or just life-related stuff!

Riddhi B, author of Whispering stories blog.

Here is the entry she sent-

Love and people and social interaction in general are overrated

Umm you know, I kinda agree but I kinda don’t.

Sometimes, I just hate seeing people. Not because they’re insufferable, but then what conversation do I make with them? But sometimes, I just cannot stand being alone you know? *My ambiverted heart not being able to make a decision*

Social interaction is overrated, in a way. When I meet someone, I say hi and then I’m split between two choices- should I talk or not? Finding the ideal person to talk is a necessity for me. I get selective. So if I like that person, then hey, welcome this chatterbox of a person. If I don’t, it’s just hard. No matter how nice you’ll be, I’ll never be able to talk to you openly. It’s all about getting THAT vibe.

Second, the answers to some questions are hard. For example- how have you been doing lately?

I get thinking. What am I supposed to tell, that my favorite show just got finished and I can’t move on, school is tough, and I’m struggling with a character’s death in a book? That it is traumatic? Obviously, I can’t answer it like that. Even if I do, it’s not the “acceptable answer”, because whoever asked me how I’ve been doing, has already set a particular answer in their mind (and that reply is “i’m doing fine”). And they won’t get it. Awkward as hell.

Then coming to love, well I’m not sure. From a school perspective, it is SO overrated. In my school, the rumors begin if a girl is seen talking to a boy, or even EYE CONTACT and there go the oohs and aahhs by the teasing classmates. And every school has that group that’s always into who’s having a crush on whom and stuff. They’d do all pairings, and will howl like a pack of wolves whenever the girl and the guy have an interaction, when there is clearly NOTHING between them.

There’s one thing I wish I could tell them but I never could- GROW UP.

They don’t get it’s cringe to go on linking people and stuff. And then there’ll be heartbroken people who can’t get their crush to like them back. See, you develop feelings, but then don’t you have things to study? Isn’t this SCHOOL? Your life right now isn’t supposed to be a romance drama, it’s not gonna happen, it’s all unrealistic overrated stuff they show on television, you’re never gonna have it, so stop getting depressed about love.

I won’t preach further, but, there is still time in your life for that.

And people, well, I like people. Nothing wrong, unless they start a war or something. (Yes, I referenced it to that w@r)

But if you look at it from an introverted perspective, above all arguments stand invalid, because introverts react the following ways in each of the cases:

  • People- Meh.
  • Love- Meh meh.
  • Social interaction- An even bigger Meh.

So, yes, that was my opinion slash rant on this intriguing one liner, now how about you?

What is your opinion about people, love and social interaction?

Let me know in the comments, people!

And also, I will go a bit inactive for a while, because right now, I’m sorting, well, LIFE. Seems overexaggerated, but it isn’t. I’ve moved to the dreaded, overhyped and the pit of doom and misery, tenth grade. I’m just kidding. But still, I feel I really need to pay attention to school now (not that all these years I WASN’T, but still, goes to say), because I think the very first month of an academic year is like THE MOST important time, to set the correct pace for the rest of the grade.

I would also put this series to a halt, and continue it again in the month of May, and as promised, there will be ten episodes, look forward to the next five coming up later! If you want to submit an entry or something, you can still do it!

In the meantime, I’ll post something different, because I know, a blog series can become SO BORING. I need a change too. And also, apologies for not replying to all those comments I got on previous posts, I love you readers! Thanks for still being here, I’ll try to reply to you people henceforth!

Anyways, Sayonara, readers!

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.

Just an opinion!- A blog series @TheNameIsDivi!

This series is a blog series where I share my opinions on one-liners that I got from my readers a while ago. To fill in your entry please do do here. To learn more about the series, please read this post.

Just an opinion: Episode 3- “How to stop thinking about what others think about me?…”

Disclaimer: This post might be a bit rude, please feel free to not-comment negative things.

Hello everyone! Welcome to the 3rd episode of Just an Opinion! I’ve really had so much fun doing this, but this week onwards I’ll try to speed up and finish all my entries as soon as I can, so that it’ll give way for newer, fresher content.

Today’s entry is by a lively blogger, an IRL friend and a fellow BTS army. She asked me to keep her name private, which I think was a joke, but she signed up for promoting her blog. She runs a Blog called Yours Aarya Mali, which is a personal cum lifestyle blog, as she said in her entry. Go to her blog right now! don’t forget to come back.

Hmmm… I started this blog to express my thoughts and just HAVING FUN! I’m passionate about writing and that’s the only reason this blog is alive. Also, this space is created for crackheads like me- I hope we create a place where you and I could laugh together! So be ready for all the stupid and dumb posts coming up! Byeee mah lovelies-

Aarya, author of the blog Yours Aarya Mali

Well now you know her name. Anyways, here is what she has to say-

How to stop thinking about what others think about me? or let’s just say, How to stop being insecure about my work, and ME!

I have no one way to begin with this post. Because the statement poses such a complicated issue.

But, I feel I’m brave and I can do this.

But wait, what if I’m judged?

What will people think about me if I begin the post like this?

Will people like this?


See what I did there? I showed you a live example of what being insecure is. So the problem shared by Aarya is real, and present. How often have you thought, “would they like the dress?” or “I don’t think they’ll like it”? How often did YOU like it? Now, while writing this, I might go too extreme, so bear with me.

Let me write this from an Indian perspective. In the real society, there are unsaid norms that everyone should follow. Every Gender has different rules. Whether it be about toxic masculinity or shadowed femininity. I get it, times are changing, but if you step out of the norm, you’d bring notice and the word would spread around the entire town. Though not faster and uglier than before, things matter even now.

Such suppressed circumstances lead to what we call insecurity. For example, I feel insecure while wearing sleeveless tops. Nobody ever objected me about it, but then I feel strange. Not gonna lie, I do question what would people think. (I’m trying to change that.)

But it is difficult to live underneath this pressure. Like hello, when are you going to do things you like? You don’t wear short dresses but you like them, you can’t cry when you want to, all because you’re not supposed to?

See, nobody wrote these rules and nobody really finds anything objectionable, but it’s the way they talk. While “people” gossip, they pick up these topics. But they do forget. I hear the regular gossip queens talking such things, “You saw her clothing? She has such a bad taste.”

First off, it is really icky to backbite, especially about someone’s taste. When something is genuinely wrong, you can talk. But passing comments? Stop it before I throw a chappal at you from the screen. (chappal is something we say in India for a piece of footwear, for all non-indian readers.)

Second, them commenting is not going to change anything. Everyone doesn’t have a similar taste and it is okay. Wear what you like, do what you want.

The best way is to take off this fake social pressure. Ignore it. When your life flashes before your eyes, do you want to see all boring social norms you followed for impressing someone or do you want to see exciting things you did? So simply, walk it off. PEOPLE WILL FORGET.

In the end, what matters is your satisfaction. If you’re too insecure about your work, you should take that leap of faith. Jo hoga, dekha jaayega (a small phrase in Hindi which translates to “whatever happens, we’ll take care of it”). Even if the feedback you receive is harsh, but true, try to take it in a constructive manner. But put it out. Your work might be something valuable to someone else, and importantly, you.

I hope I provided some value to your time, because that’s all I have to say today.

And what makes me qualified to write this post? Well, I am not afraid to put this post out, though I know I have jitters. But you’re still reading this aren’t you?

Signing off,

Divi.

Just an opinion: Episode 2- “We need more celebrities and influencers addressing things like mental health, the system…”

Hello everyone! Welcome to episode two of our blog series!

Today’s episode features Ib, from ” It’s Ib! “.

It’s Ib blog is a lifestyle(?) blog run by a confused lady about to reach her 20s’, that’s me! It’s just a medium for me to share my thoughts and interests with whoever may be interested. I’m just here to have fun, interact with other people of the same interest and just live, I guess. Thank you Divi! 💜

Ib, Author of ‘It’s Ib’ Blog.

Ib has a very cheery and funny personality when she expresses it in her blog. I love how her posts are always so optimistic! Please go check out her blog!

Here’s what she has to say-

We need more celebrities and influencers addressing things like mental health, the system and not just trying to paint a perfect picture of their lives on social media

*Before we begin, I’ve noticed some of you readers have been confused as to who wrote what, This isn’t a guest post. All the content is written by me (Divi), where I write my opinion regarding their statements. *

Clearly by “celebrities and influencers addressing things like mental health, the system”, you mean like BTS. I agree one hundred percent. I also disagree a bit.

The last episode, I wrote about unrealistic expectations. The reason I took up Ib’s entry as the next was because this is quite related to it in that perspective.

What would you expect in a celebrity social media handle? Picture perfect shots of them vacationing, them with family, them with their dog, them with their mascara, them with their pasta and crap like that. When you sum up all of these, you kind of get a picture. “This woman is living it up” or “That is the perfect life that I wish for”. Thought these things much?

My biggest issue with all of this propaganda is that, it’s not fake, but it’s not true either.

Behind those beach parties, dog, pasta, family, vacation, there is a whole lot of stuff going on. Probably some sponsorships, or product endorsements. Maybe they’re SUPPOSED to post it online.

Credits to owner.

But I get the point Ib is trying to make. Why not use their influence for a better cause?

We all live in a world that has people full of insecurities. No, I’m not criticizing, I have loads of insecurities, so I’m one of you all. After seeing such perfect things, unrealistic expectations are so high. We all need motivation, like, “hey buddy, you don’t need to be perfect”.

Instead we see celebrities promoting consumerism. (Oh look at my expensive clothing, my mercedes, my coffee that comes in plastic everday!)


Talk about celebrities with plastic surgeries and cosmetic enhancements? When popular figures like them are insecure and dissatisfied with their own body (and literally go to the lengths of altering it), how do you expect Gen Z to be confident about themselves? The impact such behaviour can have, is depressing. (So before you judge our generation, talk about our role models first.)

It’s all toxic and sometimes suffocating, too. Like you’d feel like you’re never gonna be like them or as perfect as them.

If you do think like that, please ditch all those useless thoughts. They’re of no actual use. PERIOD.

Let’s come to the second part. Mental health issues need to be addressed, now especially since mental health issues are mainstream. A while ago, Ariana Grande donated a million dollars for a mental health campaign that gave people free therapy. BTS launched the love yourself campaign. I feel a few really do make a change. I’m not a BlackPink fan, but they advocate for climate change. I really like it when people come together for a greater cause.

Yes, we need more outspoken people who have a vision to change. Yes we need more true and not so perfect celebs.

But again, they’re normal people like us. They aren’t saints to always do social service, they’re just enjoying their money. Tell me, as a normal human being, would you let go of all the luxuries money can buy? Or would you give it all up for charity? The balance, is somewhere in the middle.

Signing off,

Divi.

Just an opinion!- A blog series @TheNameIsDivi!

This series is a blog series where I share my opinions on one-liners that I got from my readers a while ago. To fill in your entry please do do here. To learn more about the series, please read this post.

Just an opinion: Episode 1- “I’m tired of seeing aesthetic bookstagrammers and their oh so amazing shelves…”

Hello everyone! Today’s post is the very first episode in the Just an Opinion blog series! I recieved such intriguing entries, I’m so happy I got so many!

Today’s episode features Sep, from Bookishly Yours. (One of my favorite bloggers out there)

Bookishly Yours is a blog where I (Sep) talk about books. No, I don’t have a huge fancy library, but I love books. I’m always up and ready for a bookish talks. Oh, and my blog has poetry, and other stuff too! (probably not the best description).

Sep, Author of Bookishly yours.

It is a great description, it’s all quirky and humorous~~

Here’s what she has to say-

I’m tired of seeing aesthetic bookstagrammers and their oh so amazing shelves. Don’t you think there should be more bookstagrammers who don’t have huge shelves but love to read?

First up, I do agree and disagree with you.

Vocabulary time- Bookstagrammer: A person who maintains a bookstagram, meaning a books-themed instagram account.

Fake expectation-anxiety is an actual thing. The bookstagrammers post such pretty pictures of their photos, it sometimes seems too good to be true. Despite not being on instagram, I think I understand what this means. On pinterest, the pictures’ level is somewhere up in the sky. Credits to their talents, but isn’t it too demotivating? Someone who wants to begin something, they’d see all this, the person would be so overwhelmed, they’d give up on this right away, saying “Man, I won’t ever be able to do it this good!”

The same thing would happen with the so-called “perfect” bookstagrammers.

Photo by Aleksey Sokolenko on Pexels.com

There picture perfect filter-thick pictures of huge bookshelves and over exaggerated emotions are enough to lead you away from reading. Because that isn’t the point of reading. The excessive beautification of a book gives you fake expectations, that you should do something similar to this. But it isn’t practically possible to read in an aesthetic comfortable atmosphere.

I mean, we all read on couches in our twisted positions that give us backaches.

And I don’t own a lot of books too. I bought the books in my home library when I was in my tweens, after that I didn’t buy many. The majority of the books I’ve read are either library borrowed, friend exchanges, or e-books.

So this is the part where I agree with Sep’s statement. There should be more bookstagrammers who don’t have a fancy library, but love to read.

Loving a book isn’t that easy. All of you people, who think reading is easy and can be done by just merely reading- no it’s not. Book reading is so personal to so many people like myself. Who like to own the characters, plotline, get immersed into the story entirely and read every single line and make out so many interpretations out of the words that convey the deep emotions. That is serious thinking.

And do you even know how hard it is to let go of a book and move on to another?

Photo by George Milton on Pexels.com

Reading 20 such books that touch you deeply and change you for life is greater than reading a huge bookshelf full of books that you read for bragging you’ve read those many.

So yes again, there should be bookstagrammers who don’t have fancy shelves but want to share their experience of reading books they like.

Coming to the disagreement.

Bookstagrammers use aesthetics for visual appeal, we all know that. Tell me fairly, do we all feel inclined towards a block of text or a picture? Not everyone likes reading such huge texts, no matter how good the content is.

At the end of the day, aesthetics, are just to bring the people in. Take my blog’s case for example. I try using aesthetics in my post, which are totally unrelated at times. It’s just a small trick people like me use for bringing people in and read your content. (mind you, this isn’t clickbait.)

Apart from that, aesthetics serve no purpose.

But sometimes, we should just leave it to them. Perhaps doing things like that give them satisfaction. I myself love doing photo set-ups for my object photoshoots.

In the end, I feel tired seeing the unrealistic aesthetic culture spreading, no matter how pretty it can make things seem. I’m all for actual content based approach, because aesthetics may go out of trend, but content never does.

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.

Just an opinion!- A blog series @TheNameIsDivi!

This series is a blog series where I share my opinions on one-liners that I got from my readers a while ago. To fill in your entry please do do here. To learn more about the series, please read this post.

Book tag- |LAST, NOW, NEXT|

Hello everyone! Happy February! I hope you’re all fine, and if you’re not, remember as usual that Divi, is always there for you <3

I was tagged for a book tag by @ Shivakshiiifyblogs the last week, and I must say, I was never this hyped for a tag this much. This is so fun to do. She herself is the creator of this tag, show her some love!

(Please note other bloggers that I no longer do award tags, but I still do book tags. All the bloggers who’ve tagged me for awards recently, I’m so happy for your consideration, thank you for your nomination!)

Shall we get into the tag then?

Points to remember :

  • Link back to the ORIGINAL CREATOR-@Shivakshiiifyblogs.
  • Show gratitude to the person who tagged you.
  • Mention these points in your post.
  • Answer the following questions and use the original graphics and featured image.
  • Use the tag “Book Tag|LAST, NOW, NEXT|” in your post.
  • Tag as many bloggers as you want.
  • Have fun!

~Last

The last book I read was One of us is lying. It is a murder-mystery novel that revolves around 4 teenagers who are supposed suspects for killing a guy at their own school.

Yes! It did! First of all, Riddhi from @Whispering stories (Thank you for the rec-) hyped me up about it. I did like this book very much and I’m excited to hop onto the next one!

Ummm, hard to recommend. Look, this book has everything in it, but at some points, I really felt like I’d read this or seen this book in a movie or something. It seemed to me like any other YA novel. Not a stand-out, but, it was a memorable read for me, so go ahead and try it if you think murder-mysteries cum high-school tropes are your thing.

~Now

I’m was thinking of going on a book reading break because I have a lot of things on my to-do list and my exams are coming up. Nevertheless, I’m betting for an easy standalone book. They both die in the end, by Adam Silvera. I read the synopsis, and I’m so impressed.

As I said, I read the synopsis and I fell for it.

This one is a bit long, judging by my messed up schedule, it’ll be a long read for me:(

~Next

I’ll try to stick with Young Adult fiction, but historical fiction is on the list. YA is easy to read, because they’re all characters I can relate to in some way. Historical fiction because I’ve been so fascinated with history lately and if there’s any books adding a spinoff to that, that’ll be amazing for sure. Talk about a world war era melodrama or medieval Indian love story. It’s so cliched but so good to read.

As much I miss the characters of a book and say “It’s over already?!”, I prefer short reads because I don’t like holding onto a book for too long. I HAVE MORE STORIES TO READ.

I already mentioned about my top 10 tbr in this post, check it out!

~Nominees

As always, I’m leaving this an open nomination for anyone who’s interested in this tag! No pressure!

Also, before you leave, do not forget to fill out the form for my new blog series and make your opinion count!

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.

Some things, you need to do with yourself- a small little life update+chit-chat

I was really tired that day Like I am everyday. I was exhausted, after solving math (how typical) and studying for the exams coming up next month. Pressure was building up on me, especially since I performed real bad in the previous exam.

I got so frustrated after a while, I just banged my books. I didn’t understand what was troubling me. My head felt so heavy. That’s when I realized, I was just being too hard on myself. I was overstretched.

There’s very simple things that bring joy to us. For me, things that bring joy are some little things like baking, photography, painting or writing something, or watching a bts video (the crackhead stuff) and listening to a sad taylor swift song but that makes me sad again . At that point of time, my mind feels at peace. I feel so pleasant while cycling during evenings with soft sunlight and gentle wind.

Just when things seem purposeless, or you feel aimless, you need to do a few things by yourself. Spending time with yourself. For me, I know the time for leisure has come when I am sick of everything I do. When my head, body and mind feels heavy.

A new hobby I found was- painting. A budding Pablo Picasso coming straight up. I never thought I was any good at painting, but once I got the hang of it, it felt doable. Painting is kinda abstract so you can have like a predefined picture of what you want but it goes in a COMPLETELY different way.

Then I began writing a story. I don’t know if I can call it a novel yet, but it’s as of now just a plot that is loosely held by some words, lol. It’s a mixture of so many genres and tropes, for now, I’m thinking of calling it “my mess”.

I’ve been deep in my own heap of study these days. My mom says I’m being too much of a nerd. I hate the word nerd. What do you say?

I’ve also been reading this book “One of us is lying” by Karen McManus. It’s interesting till the point I’ve read, thank you so much Book bloggers for that book rec!

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Our school began online once again though :( Just when I thought school would be normal, wham! Online school. Truth be spoken, I HATE online school. My eyes hurt, and it’s too boring without any interaction. Like mischief with friends.

But! Since I was part of the Republic day event at school (ahem- I was the emcee-), I did find my cue to go to school. I found such beautiful bougainvillea blossoms, in white! They looked so prettyyyy~

I wonder if I’ll have the chance again to go to school.

There we go with the sadness again.

This post was supposed to be happy.

Anyways, I hope y’all are doing well. Keep being weird, spend some time with yourself, stay hydrated and this is where I end today. Sayonara.

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.

Getting out of my hole of procrastination (again)

Hello! I have been so irregular with the blog. Guess why? I chose to procrastinate over this. My apologies, again.

So, I’ve been sinking in the hole of procrastination again. At this point of time, I’ve realized something. It’s only natural to do this. Procrastination was meant to happen, to deviate our minds. It’s just like another piece in a chess game.

But how I got out of it, it’s a long story.

So it began this way. In the Xmas holidays, I sorted out my life. I reoriented myself to work towards my goal(s). I began to be organized, I started with the so called “perfect life”. But then after I recovered from covid early January this year (I know, such a bad start for a new year), I started using this excuse of “recovery” trauma.

I binge watched series and films, because I was “recovering” and I needed to feel good.

I did art stuff to make me feel good.

I inclined toward pleasure, because I had “trauma”.

And…I lost focus in practically every single thing I did.

After I realized I was being too much of a master procrastinator, I hatched a plan.

  1. I would finish a chunk of work
  2. Watch whatever I was watching
  3. Get back to my work
  4. repeat.

This was a good system when I was watching something very gripping. Like a series or a film or reading a very interesting book. Let’s say, finish 10 long history essay type questions, get 10 minutes of watch/ reading time.

It is very efficient, until I discovered a loophole. When I traded every history question for a minute of leisure, I sometimes, you know, extended it. Like 10 questions= 20 minutes of procrastination.

The starting, goes smooth, but long term, well, back to day 1. So, I figured a better way.

We’re humans, and as good as we can be while being stubborn, we also tend to get deviated. So, an atmosphere where there can be no possible distractions (like, literally nothing), you’d succeed in finishing your work, zero procrastination. But this isn’t practical. We live in the tech era, if you forgot.

I wouldn’t suggest you downloading procrastination-free apps or something as such (though they can be useful, but they have their own flaws and CAN be cheated). Instead, try to think really hard.

Remind yourself what is at stake. Like a paper that is due the next day or a project goal you need to submit by midnight. Get to know yourself. Can you do it if you procrastinate? Are you capable enough?

Well if you budge a yes to these questions, you’re free to procrastinate. But what is at stake is quality work . If you stay up till midnight and get the work till it chokes you, sorry, but you won’t get your work done either.

So, remind yourself what you’ll be losing if you procrastinate. Then you’d be afraid to do whatever it is you’re doing.

Couple of other inputs you can try-

  • Try to go for non-tech options: Like resources or something, you can use books or papers from library. You can turn towards your laptop when you really feel you need it.
  • Sit in supervision: Don’t ask someone to superintend you, just go sit somewhere in a place where there are people. You could work on your pc, and you’d feel a “fake” pressure of completing your work, because you don’t wanna show the other person that you’re a total waste, and you wouldn’t want them to see that your work process is really sloppy.
  • Keep a water bottle beside: Really helps when you think you’re going to fall asleep. We tend to procrastinate when we don’t have a lot of energy and are entering a state where we don’t want to do a SINGLE THING. Drinking water gives your brain some activity and plus, it’s a good skincare hack. (Glowing skin like BTS hehe.)
  • Learn to take a break: You never really procrastinate when you’ve already had your dose of break. You procrastinate because either you don’t want to do that task or you’re longing for a break. Breaks help you to solve both the problems. Cut off procrastination, just like that.

So, that’s it for this week, readers!

Also, I’m gonna be launching a new blog series in a while, but before I can write, I’ll need your participation! Stay tuned for the post!

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.

My reading goals of the year +Plan your reading for the year with me!

Hello readers! The last year was such a lesson, especially when it came to books. My life never felt so empty. Before that, my life was filled with stories of so many fictional and real characters, it was easy to distract myself from something that’s bothering me. Last year, for some stupid reason, I stopped reading.

I tried so much, but I just, couldn’t get myself to read. But now I feel, I need to get something to distract myself. So here are my reading goals for 2022, and feel free to grab a notepad, to plan out your year too!

How many books I’m wanting to read

I’m planning to read 30. I don’t want to set too many unrealistic goals for myself. I’m going to get myself to read 30, and slowly raise the bar high. I’m feeling, maybe I’ll raise till…60?

So, you could decide your number based on your capacity and of course, time. 30 books for me takes not much time, and I could easily incorporate that in my daily life, yours would depend on how hectic your schedule is.

What genres I want to read

Genres are very important. My book genres kinda define my vibe of the year. One year, I chose fantasy as my genre, I imagined being in Hogwarts. No, seriously.

This year, I want to read-

  • Young Adult- This genre is pretty broad, because there’s relatable teenage protagonists with relatable problems. This would include dystopian, romance, fantasy and everything else.
  • Dystopian- After reading hunger games, I’m pretty much convinced dystopian is my genre. I’m looking for more books like HG, maybe I’ll get lucky?
  • Crime- It’s kind of scary to think about crime, but I feel I have to try this out.
  • Action and adventure- Definitely my genre. I could read all day about protagonists going on life-defining trips filled with action. I definitely feel good about such books.
  • Mystery- Detective and thrillers are so interesting to read. Definitely on my list.

Top 10 TBR

For the unversed, tbr means to-be-read. Add that one in your glossary. Coming back to the list, a good tbr leads to reading good books. It gives a nice starting point. So my top 10 TBR are-

  • As good as dead- I was reading this one last year, but I left it in the middle of the process. I should start this one again, because the plotline is excellent.
  • A good girl’s guide to murder- I recently read a book review, this excited me SO MUCH.
  • Daisy jones and the six- After reading The Seven husbands of Evelyn Hugo, Taylor Jenkins Reid has officially become one of my favorite authors. Hence, this pick.

  • Turtles all the way down- I cannot say no to a book that has John Green’s name on it.
  • Fangirl- This is a book blogger recommendation! She told this was a book she’s read several times. That cannot stop me from reading.
  • It ends with us- One of my besties’s book rec. She has been fangirling over this.

  • Thirteen reasons why- I don’t know, the book cover interested me.
  • These violent delights- I heard it’s really good. Plus, the synopsis is AMAZING.

  • Our violent ends- It’s the sequel to the previous one, I have to read it.
  • The cruel prince- This book is called, been-on-my-tbr-for-long. I have to give it justice.

BONUS: Six of crows, because my friend wouldn’t stop begging me to read this.

When I plan to read

Everyday. I want to make this a habit. I would like to spend at least an hour reading. I know that going into 10th grade the coming year, I wouldn’t get as much time to read. But I’d like to be more productive and continue my reading habit.

As for you, on the other side of the computer, make your own call about how much time you should spend. Reading more shouldn’t mean placing everything else aside. Reading should be *in sync* with everything else.

I should do that first.


So that was…it. I know I haven’t posted that frequently in quite a while. My family and I tested positive for covid 19, so I wasn’t that active on wordpress. I missed out on comments and new posts. But since I’m better, I’m sure I’ll be regular now. Expect a post once a week, on Mondays! I’ll also reply to your comments sooner!

The QOTD-

What are your reading plans for 2022? How many books are you gonna read?

Let me know your answers!

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.

5 things I’d like to be thrown out of my life in the coming year. If I could, obviously.

Hi everyone! I hope everyone is good. Happy December again. And maybe an early wishing of a happy new year? I know it’s been a rocky ride since the cursed year, and I know everyone else probably feels depressed by whatever the heck is going out there. And I also know that I’d be better off doing some worthwhile things rather than procrastinating over it. But, here I am.

There’s these things I absolutely DISLIKE (hate is a strong word haha) about me and my life. Whether scrolling endlessly or being too much of a weirdo (or showing off my bookworm side lol).

Time-wasting apps

Please, get out of my life. I don’t need you.

I sit at such apps for a long time, scroll and scroll and find nothing. Except a few moments of laughter after reading a joke. That laughing isn’t even qualified as laughing, it’s just hot air coming out of my nose (try it). Zero productivity.

What I’d like instead: More productivity and a brain that makes me realize “You’ve been staring at this app for too long, get back to your work.”

Clutter

You deserve to be in the trash and not in my room.

Sadly, clutter doesn’t go anywhere. Instead it just piles up. My room is literally, cluttered, ALL THE TIME. Some of you might relate to this. I’m not a minimalist. I do not go repeating “less is more”. I have probably as many things in my room as the number of ants in the world. And let me tell you, the ants, are a lot.

What I’d like to do instead: De-clutter, get rid of my materialistic attachment and throw away things I don’t need.

My lack of being organized

Somehow related to my previous point. I’m just very lazy to keep things organized. Just like how I find socks in bookshelves. The problem is that I organize and clean something very passionately, and it stays like that for a while. Then I end up making a mess of everything soon after, because I keep thinking “Oh I’ll get back to cleaning this, but later.”

And by judging me as far as you know me, do you think “that later” ever came?

My book slump

I haven’t been able to read books the way I did before. Maybe it’s bad book recommendations (ahem, help me book bloggers), but I’ve lost my reading “touch”. I am not that passionate about it as I was before, I’m not that hooked to even good books. So, the coming year, I want to throw out this book slump and say “come in” to more books!

Covid

GET OUT ALREADY.

Enough of this torture, Covid. Please go. If you don’t leave now, people are gonna start looking weird to me without their masks. Enough of this, us humans are tired.

What I’d like instead: Some freedom and a mask free life.


I recently got some honest feedback about my blog, that it was becoming too boring. I must agree with that. I haven’t soulfully written my posts in quite a while. Blogging is becoming a chore for me. More like an obligation. I seriously am thinking of quitting. But hopefully if the blog stats do well after this post, maybe I’ll stick around. (a little “blackmailing” never hurt anyone)

I really feel this post will do well. Because I wrote it truthfully, just being myself. I hope you enjoyed! The QOTD is-

Can I get some book recommendations!?

Leave your thoughts, and the answers!

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.

Reviewing myself for the past year: 2021 edition

The pandemic has done good and bad to me. I wouldn’t write about my so-called vulnerability again, I’ve bored you enough with that previously. I’ve changed so much as a person, my friends who’ve met me now after 2 years ask me- “Are you sure you are you?”

You know, 2021 is almost over, and remember one of my first posts on the blog? I spoke about how I changed that year. This would be the second version of that.

A little by little, new changes kept adding up and sometimes, they pulled out a chunk of me or added three new more chunks extra (literally, too). The pandemic also exposed me to different things, like internet culture, aesthetics, *memes*, pop culture and even fandom culture.

I’ve become socially anxious. My friends called me, “that extrovert girl”, but I don’t totally live up to that. So the social anxiety slowly came by. The First step being less people-interaction (thank you, lockdown). Then came the texting period, where I began texting people. Then I only texted people.

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gif via GIPHY, CTTO.

Realizing that I was being too much of an in-the-corner-with-zero-social-interaction person, I began doing phone calls. But that too was only when the other person called me.

I hesitate to go to someone’s house to give something like a dish my mother made. You know, the typical Indian household thing where you need to give back the neighbor’s box with some food item you made, just because you cannot return something empty? I cannot get myself to do that. Not because I deem it a lowly thing to do (which it isn’t), but because I have zero knowledge about how to behave with Indian aunties or neighbors. Even if my parents taught me manners well.

Now since I am back at school, things are getting tougher. I do not know how to react to people I haven’t spoken with for around 2 years, but were friends of mine back then. It’s awkward. Plus, it gets hard to recognize people who’ve either doubled in length or in breadth.

Also, I‘ve become a bit of a perfectionist. Not a bit maybe. A lot, so much that it might be toxic.

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same, buddy, same. (via Tenor, CTTO)

My school assignments needs to be perfect, so to achieve that unattainable perfection, I spend a whole day to finish a small assignment. My mother says I take things too seriously because of that. I think that the partial reason of this cringe perfectionism is high expectations from myself.

I’ve been trying to decrease that. I’m slowly understanding that things aren’t meant to be perfect. And even though my peers have high expectations from me, they aren’t as high as the standards I set for myself. Self acceptance would get me out of it.

I’ve become more of a realist. I’ve been an optimist, whose encouraging people even if it’s practically and really impossible for that to happen. But this time, I think I’ve changed for the better. Living in the practicality is what I want, I’m going closer to being that person.

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I speak too fast. Don’t know if this qualifies, but I used to be a very “clear” speaker, now I just rush faster than a Japanese Bullet train. My brain is thinking too fast, I’m not able to put it into words at a normal human pace. Yeah I know, my brain’s faster than normal brains. (Truth? No, it isn’t.)

The pandemic either changed me, or brought out my real colors. But I have this vision, a prospective, about who I am supposed to be. I want to be THAT confident, stubborn, independent chick who enjoys herself and is practical. I don’t know how close I am to that goal, but let’s say… halfway through?

And before I end today, I have a message for you. Or more, a reader and a blog pal does. I promised Harshita that there’d be a shoutout for a beautiful comment she wrote on a blog post of mine (read it if you’d like here).

All body sizes are not beautiful. No they are not. Beauty is something the society, we, created as a way to obtain the validity. It makes you think you are only valid if you have a pretty face and a curved body

All body sizes aren’t beautiful

But they are valid

We sometimes label people ‘looks’ based on their look. I mean, it can be a mental condition or it could be from birth or it might be in the genes et cetera. We create this idea of people in our heads without getting to know them.

Body positivity is really important. Every one should feel this validity with their own skin. You are not obliged to change yourself *cough* torture yourself *cough* for [the ]convenience of others.

Harshita/Aashi Rath @ words on fleek

So with that message, we end here. Namaste.

Not-so-daintily loving you,

Divi.